A Thought on Sex and Cheating

Have you ever known anyone to “cheat” on their relationship, i.e. cheat on their boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife?  What does the word mean?  If you think of it in the context of when you were a child, your parents may have told you that “cheating” is when you deceive someone into thinking something other than the truth.  Like looking over to someone else’s exam while taking a test or misrepresenting your income on your taxes.  Cheating in a relationship usually pertains to having sexual contact with another person other than the one which you’re sharing monogamous trust.  What’s interesting about the word “monogamy” is that it is defined as having one sexual partner at a time or being married to one person at a time.  Many marriages and serious relationships rebound from one partner, or both partners, cheating on the other.  It might be because having sex with someone, just for the sex, is not substantive when you are talking about penetrating deep emotional and spiritual connections with someone.  

When you share sexual bonds with someone who you are connected to in mind and spirit you are interwoven into each other’s existence.  Just having sex with someone is just that, sex.  Good or bad, short or long (as measured literally in periods of time) is the extent of the experience.  To some extent we are really “cheating” ourselves out of a deeper and more fulfilling sexual experience.  Before we cheat, “step-out” or as Austin Powers would say “Let’s shag, baby”, let’s think about breaking the trust in our inner relationship with self.  Self-trust is the feeling of satisfaction that emerges when you do something good for someone or something simple like paying your bills on time.  Encourage each other to be stewards of our emotional state and to protect our bodies and our minds from miscellaneous inputs that will eventually end up as output garbage.

Kenni Powell is the Chief Instructor at Kenni Powell Fitness™.  Kenni’s passion for dancing and fitness comes through in each of her hip hop dance and Zumba® classes.  Kenni seeks to combine fitness with mental health in order to help people reach the next level of overall wellness.  Visit the KP Fitness website to view Kenni’s class schedule or to register for one of her master classes near you.  You can also follow Kenni on the web via Twitter®, @KPFitness1, or on her Facebook® page.

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